Where do you get off saying that it's never OK to make a rape joke? I am sick of so-called feminists like you who spout this righteous bullshit about rape jokes perpetuating rape culture when you obviously have never been raped yourself. Excuse me for using rape jokes as a means of healing from my own horrible experience. Get off your high horse and shut up about things you know nothing about.
First off, I want to say that I am terribly sorry to hear about your rape. I’m assuming you have not actually read my blog because if you had, you would know that I have experienced sexual violence more than once in my lifetime. You may not be bothered by rape jokes, but the fact is, the majority of rape victims—men and women alike—are offended and worse, triggered by them. Obviously rape jokes don’t trigger you, but I’m sure you have your own set of triggers. Think about what you experience when you get triggered—the fear, the panic, the pain—that’s what you are inflicting on another survivor when you tell a rape joke in their presence. I don’t imagine that you would want to purposely inflict that kind of suffering on someone else who has gone through a similar experience as you. I hear that you find rape jokes cathartic, but may I suggest that you limit your use of them in public. Better yet, I would recommend turning to a different coping mechanism all together—one that’s not going to potentially hurt someone. After all, if you were robbed, you wouldn’t go around robbing other people as a means of dealing.
Here’s a few books you might want to check out:
Recovering from Rape by Linda E. Ledray R.N. PH.D
The Rape Recovery Handbook by Aphrodite Matsaskis PH.D
After Silence: Rape and My Journey Back by Nancy Venable Raine